I’ve been reading Gary Barkalow’s book “It’s your call”. I’ve found it to be really profound and quite different to other similar books I’ve read. In it, he mentions four ways that the enemy uses to keep us from our destiny. These are:
- Distance – we are distanced from our hearts and desires through pain or wounding
- Diminishment – the glory of our lives is diminished to such as point that we no longer want to offer it
- Disdain – through the power of shame we are brought to a place of disdain for our glory
- Disqualification – accusation causes us to believe we are no longer qualified to walk in our calling
Upon reflection, I’ve found that I have come up against all of these strategies, some of these battles are still very much in progress. I meet so many people who are miserable, not walking in their calling. From the outside looking in, I can often clearly see how one (or more) of these dynamics are at play. One of the reasons they’re so effective is that we mostly unaware that they are in operation, we take things at face value and simply believe that “this is how things are”. Part of my journey is to reflect on the agreements I’ve made with some of these lies and strategies and to question what I believe to be true about myself and the world. Sometimes it’s a scary and difficult process, but always worth it!
Last week I had my first art lesson (one of the dreams on my list). It was a lot of fun, but I found it pretty tiring as well. I had to continuously push through limiting beliefs that seemed to hold my creativity captive. Beliefs like: you can’t draw, you’re not as good as the others, people will laugh at what you create … and on and on it went. I had to make a conscious decision not to give in to these thoughts and to simply push through. In the end I did end up drawing a pretty amazing picture, I chose a difficult one on purpose, and I felt a lot of satisfaction when I actually did it! (If you’re interested to see, have a look at the bottom of this post)
The experience made me wonder how many of my other dreams were stillborn, killed prematurely by my own limiting beliefs, lies I believe about myself. Maybe you have a similar experience? Let’s look at some of the common ones: Continue reading
This image really captured my attention and spoke to my heart – it seems to resonate with where I am in my journey at the moment.
I’ve been trying out a dream journey that I found in a book. It’s been much harder than I anticipated. The first task on this journey is to write down 100 dreams. They provide some categories to assist with the thinking, these are:
- Things to be
- Things to do
- Things to have
In each of these aspects …
Do you know what your dreams are? When was the last time someone encouraged you to dream?
It’s so sad how many people have completely lost touch with their dreams, and along with it, their authentic selves. When we were children, we were all dreamers. We dreamed BIG dreams. We dreamed of being superheroes and princesses, not accountants and call centre agents. Somewhere along the way our dreams were taught or criticized out of us.
I am on a journey to rediscover my dreams and in the process, maybe help you to discover yours.
Want to join me?